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Let's Talk About Sex Baby
November 23, 2003, 11:18 a.m. I just saw the video clip for the winner of Australian Idol, Guy Sebastian. It’s hilarious, so obviously a rush job. It’s all “postmodern” and “ooh look I’m a video clip about making a video clip!” Which, anyway, got me thinking about Guy and how everyone’s “ooh look at him he goes to church and doesn’t want to have sex before marriage!” Which is good for him, I guess, but I really wish he hadn’t said ‘no sex before marriage’. I hate that stricture – I find it silly and useless. I guess because for me, sex isn’t sacred. It’s sex. It’s like food – you can have awful food and you can have delicious food, you can have food that’s going to make you feel sick and food that’s going to make you feel wonderful. There’s nothing inherent in the food, it changes constantly and it depends on the kind of food you pick to eat. Some people can have the kind of food that would make me feel nauseous, and good on them, but I need food that’s healthy and lovingly prepared. And I don’t see how marriage would change that. Some people say, oh, they just ban sex before marriage – there’s a lot of other things you can do that aren’t sex. Which is completely dangerous. Yes, there’re a lot of other things you can get away with, but they’re just as emotionally-involving as sex. And people tend to think they’re not, that they don’t have the power to have an emotional effect on you, because they’re not penetration. Well they fucking well do – even kissing. But I doubt you could get most people, no matter how much they attended church or feared God, to not even kiss those people they loved and were attracted to. And I don’t think you should try. When you’re young, you feel a lot, you love a lot. You also make mistakes a lot. I think we should be free to make those mistakes, to learn from them. But we should, of course, be armed with the best possible education to help us not make those mistakes (or help us make them less of a disaster when they occur). I don’t think we should set down a law saying ‘no sex before marriage’. I think we should teach people ‘no sex before you love someone’. Cause while sex isn’t sacred, for most people, it’s bloody important. Sex should be, for me at least, an expression of your love for someone. I don’t want it to be anything less. (PS Am I getting far too preachy these days?)
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